Okay, it’s a known fact ‘at’ is a preposition, but I meant to do that, for a reason I’ll get into in another post. A second known fact I promised to bring up in my entry about hair weaves —that everyone seems to love– is that government stat’s PROVE more than 70 percent of African-American children are born to unwed mothers, hence the term “baby-daddy.” One of my professors once told me that, that term wouldn’t even exist if less black people were accepting of simply having a baby daddy. Stat’s also show that black women are less prone to date outside of her race, but why is that? Why are black MEN more accepting of this than women? Seal, Taye Diggs, the NBA. I don’t get it. A girl who works for FIU’s newspaper once told me she doesn’t want to date a white boy because if they have sex, she would be disgusted by his white hands rubbing her body. This is the look I gave her:
I think this comes from lack of exposure. According to a 1998 census, whites make up just 17 percent of the population in Miami-dade County. Also, in films such as 2005’s Guess who and 2006’s Something New, interracial dating is seen as taboo and is created as a huge spectacle as opposed to something that could actually happen in everyday life.
If Niecy from the Pork N’ Beans wants to date Mark from the Hamptons, it’s probably unlikely, due to socio-economic reasons, but this is not 1952, for god’s sake RACE shouldn’t be a factor. Now, if you’re simply not attracted to white men, that’s a different story, but if you don’t want to date white boys because of those rumors about severe dandruff or that blip your grandma warned you about them smelling like bologna or kissing their dogs in the mouth (although, I’ve personally witnessed that last one to ring true), then we as black women need to branch out and explore. Maybe Mr. Tall, Dark and Handsome isn’t so dark after all, but a tall, white man from Michagan named Henson.
All I’m saying is let’s be more open-minded and keep our eyes open. Open for guys like these whom for some reason black women can’t get enough of. Keep YOUR eyes open on the next look-a-like who may be coming to a hood near you!
So, if you’re tired of asking Ray-Ray to put a ring on it, try stepping into the white side and if it doesn’t work, maybe it’s not Ray-Ray, it’s you!